Love
. . . does not take into account a wrong suffered.
1
Corinthians 13:5
Thoughts~ Love
does not take into ‘account’? What does that mean to me in everyday English?
When Paul wrote those words he probably meant that when we love someone, we
will not put the spotlight on the wrongs that other people do to us. The NIV
says “it keeps no record of wrongs” and The Message says “Doesn't keep score of
the sins of others.”
OH, I ask of the Lord, “what about when someone
belittles me over and over?” Love them.
“Okay, but what if they are so hateful and call me horrible names?” Love them. “Um, what if they gossip
about me and start lies and rumors?” Love them. “Okay, Lord, what about if I love them but am
still very aware of the way they have treated me?” Love them and just give it to God and He will handle it. “Oh, now
that will be easier said than done but I am going to trust You on this Lord.”
Does this scenario sound a little bit familiar to you?
We all experience times of such utter frustration in our relationships that we
want to keep score and make sure the person knows that we know how they have
mistreated us. God says to stop it if we want to love like He does. Love is the greatest of all the
characteristics of a Christian and after all these years, I am still learning
how to love. I fiddle around with love when it comes to someone who has wronged
me and always felt guilty if I ended a relationship that seemed doomed to
constant troubles.
Finally, I realized that loving someone and being close
friends with them are entirely two different things. I can love, quit giving
them free rent in my head, and move on without counting out all of their
hurtful ways. I need to just let God handle it and leave the accounting to Him.
Actions~ If there is one thing I have learned lately is that
when people belittle us, start rumors and gossip about us, they are very
insecure and tend to do this in order to supposedly build themselves up. Make a
list of the people who have hurt you that you are still keeping a “ledger
sheet” on.
Now pray that you can love like Jesus does. When we
love we have to forgive. Every so often, return to the list and see how you are
doing with love.
Next is the harder part: make a list of anyone you have
belittled and/or gossiped about. Ask God for forgiveness and ask him to use a
zipper on your mouth until you learn how to control yourself. I finally got
tired of the zipper and God has been showing me how to love the way His Son did
when He was on earth. He may have simply walked away from hurtful people or
softly rebuked them with love. I am not
so much the rebuking type so I often walk away. But I WAS holding on tight to
these hurts I had suffered. And not forgiving just causes undue havoc in our
hearts.
Since I love visual reminders, I have a small zipper
from my sewing box that is tacked up on my bulletin board. It serves as a
reminder to speak or act with love, even when I am belittled. Maybe you can do
something similar. Whatever it takes, right?
Prayer~ Thank You God for bringing the two women into my life
that showed me how to get rid of the hurtful words of others. Bless them both
for their wisdom. And, Lord, help me to never be the hurter again.
Trusting the Lord,
Becky
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